How I created an authentic flawed hero for my novel while dodging cliches and stereotypes

Hackers in movies these days are ultra-cool. Everyone wants to be like them. Geek is now chic. But it’s so unrealistic. How can someone who spends the majority of their time interacting via a computer develop such mature social skills. And even if they somehow did, a real hacker would never make the time needed to shop for the latest fashions, exfoliate their skin every morning, go to the hairdressers for a beard trim and, worst of all, put up with a fashion model for a long-term girlfriend.